Conflict Resolution
Whenever you get a group of individuals together, you are bound to have some sort of conflict. Whether it be a disagreement on a basic item of business, or a major issue with people's personalities, leaders must be prepared to work as listeners, mediators, and negotiators.
The most important key to dealing with conflict is to practice the art of active listening. Active listening is the concept of restating what another person says before stating your opinion. Active listening requires you to think about what the other person has said, and how their opinion impacts your paradigm. The following process has been provided to assist you in dealing with issues which require conflict resolution.
Six Step Process Toward Resolving Conflicts Among Two People
- Person A and
B come to an agreement to what the conflict issue is.
(i.e. "What are we disagreeing about?")
- Person A states
his/her point of view on the issue.
- Person B states
his/her point of view on the issue.
- Person A restates
B's statement, and then presents a counter statement.
- Person B restates
A's counter statement, and then presents a response.
- Steps 5 and 6 are repeated until an agreement has been reached to resolve the conflict.
TIP: Individuals who can remain
patient, while using active listening techniques, are typically the
most successful negotiators in conflict situations.
Something else to keep in mind is that not all conflicts will be resolved.
Many times, people will have legitimate arguments which will not end
in both parties agreeings. The end result of conflict resolution processes
could include:
- Win - Win
- Both sides come to an agreement (usually through compromise)
- Win - Lose
- One side leaves satisfied with a decision, while the other person ends up losing the argument, and thus becoming dissatisfied.
- Lose - Lose
- Both sides leave dissatisfied with the end decision.
- No Deal
- Both sides agree to disagree, and no compromise or decision is made.
If you are having specific conflict related issues within your club which you feel you cannot handle, contact your club advisor or contact the Student Activities Office for additional advice and guidance.